Resources
Practical information and resources to help make sense of emotions, behaviour, relationships and wellbeing.
Understanding Children's Emotions & Behaviour
When children become angry, anxious, overwhelmed, shut down or defensive, it can be difficult to understand what is happening - particularly when their reaction seems much bigger than the situation in front of them.
These articles bring together some of the concepts I regularly use in my work with children and parents to help make sense of what is happening underneath these responses.
Why Does My Child Lose Control?
Understanding the brain's survival system, lizard brain/wizard brain and what happens to thinking when children are overwhelmed.
Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn in Children
How different survival responses can show up as anger, avoidance, shutdown, appeasing and other behaviours.
Why Does My Child Get So Defensive?
Understanding shame, sensitivity to correction, defensiveness, accountability and repair.
When Your Child Is Losing It and So Are You
Understanding co-regulation, the parent's nervous system and how children gradually develop self-regulation.
Loneliness & Connection
Loneliness can affect us at any age, and isn't always about being physically alone. These articles explore loneliness, belonging and our need to feel genuinely connected to others.
An exploration of loneliness in adulthood, why we can feel disconnected even when surrounded by people, and the importance of meaningful connection.
Who really gets me? The loneliness of connection in childhood and adolescence
A look at loneliness in children and teenagers, the importance of feeling known and understood, and how parents can support connection without trying to fix it.